It’s about time

I won’t be sorry to see the back of 2008.  It was the best of times it was the worst of times.   And I have actually tried writing this post twice and been thrown out and lost it twice.  Maybe someones trying to tell me something.   I was pretty ungracious to people in the earlier versions.  So I figure I’ll tone it down a bit.

What did I learn?

Firstly that putting things in writing is not necessarily a good thing with personal stuff because it can be passed onto people who have no right to see it.  That people will also talk out of school – two job interviews in a the same industry this year spent a lot of time concentrating on my personal life rather than my ability to do the job.   Made me realise that maybe I won’t work in that industry again.   People gossip way too much.

Secondly with work stuff I’ve learnt that I need to insist on having things in writing.  Despite people claiming friendship and giving personal undertakings to behave in a certain way, they will do what is best for them not for you.

And from that lesson and others I’ve learnt that friendship is a fickle thing.  That some people sometimes will judge and not be able to shift from that judgement.    That forgiveness is not easily come by.

I’ve also learnt that people need to be held accountable in the roles they are in.    It is not right that they ignore what their governance documents tell them they should do.   If you accept that the personal qualities required for a position include honesty, respect and professionalism, then make sure you abide by them rather than ignore them.

And despite that, I have learnt that help comes from unexpected places and that there are people who are prepared to assist where they can.

That if the universe has a purpose it is sometimes cloaked in darkness.  That things unfold as they will and that the unexpected is the norm.

And there were also plenty of good things – a trip to Thailand with my lady, a recommitment and rebirth of my relationship with my daughters, my heart to hearts with my sisters, my Mum’s finally agreeing to meet my new lady and her efforts to come to know her, my new dog Ramsey, our new home, the new work direction and meeting new people.

So the worst of times but way more importantly the best of times.

And if the universe has a purpose I have learnt that it is better not to know what it is.  That there will always be unexpected turns, for better and worse, but that ultimately in all things, good and bad, we can learn lessons to make us better people.

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It’s about time

I won’t be sorry to see the back of 2008.  It was the best of times it was the worst of times.   And I have actually tried writing this post twice and been thrown out and lost it twice.  Maybe someones trying to tell me something.   I was pretty ungracious to people in the earlier versions.  So I figure I’ll tone it down a bit.

What did I learn?

Firstly that putting things in writing is not necessarily a good thing with personal stuff because it can be passed onto people who have no right to see it.  That people will also talk out of school – two job interviews in a the same industry this year spent a lot of time concentrating on my personal life rather than my ability to do the job.   Made me realise that maybe I won’t work in that industry again.   People gossip way too much.

Secondly with work stuff I’ve learnt that I need to insist on having things in writing.  Despite people claiming friendship and giving personal undertakings to behave in a certain way, they will do what is best for them not for you.

And from that lesson and others I’ve learnt that friendship is a fickle thing.  That some people sometimes will judge and not be able to shift from that judgement.    That forgiveness is not easily come by.

I’ve also learnt that people need to be held accountable in the roles they are in.    It is not right that they ignore what their governance documents tell them they should do.   If you accept that the personal qualities required for a position include honesty, respect and professionalism, then make sure you abide by them rather than ignore them.

And despite that, I have learnt that help comes from unexpected places and that there are people who are prepared to assist where they can.

That if the universe has a purpose it is sometimes cloaked in darkness.  That things unfold as they will and that the unexpected is the norm.

And there were also plenty of good things – a trip to Thailand with my lady, a recommitment and rebirth of my relationship with my daughters, my heart to hearts with my sisters, my Mum’s finally agreeing to meet my new lady and her efforts to come to know her, my new dog Ramsey, our new home, the new work direction and meeting new people.

So the worst of times but way more importantly the best of times.

And if the universe has a purpose I have learnt that it is better not to know what it is.  That there will always be unexpected turns, for better and worse, but that ultimately in all things, good and bad, we can learn lessons to make us better people.

14th August

This blog has been hidden for some months. Months when I have not found a lot of time to write and that has made me poorer because I’ve lost contact with my blog friends. My former real life friends have all abandoned me anyway and I hid the blog because of criticisms and sensitivities associated with what I’ve written and the way I wrote it. Since I’ve lost them anyway I’m going to reveal this blog again.

14th August passed without me knowing for the first time in 4 years. In 2004 on that Saturday my Dad died and that served as a catalyst for a great deal of change for me – my marriage ended, I commenced a new relationship, bought a new house, got sacked from my job and started a new career.

I did not remember the date my Dad died this year for the first time since it happened. That seems weird to me, maybe it’s a sign that I am moving on, that this midlife adventure is slowing down. That I can now start to get back into the stream and slowly paddle forward again.

There is barely a day goes by when I don’t think of Dad but I am making my peace with what went before. Yesterday I was watching a Garth Brooks special on CMC and “The Dance” was played. There are some songs that make me emotional every time I hear them and that is one. So for Dad and for what has happened in the past four years please have a listen.

14th August

This blog has been hidden for some months. Months when I have not found a lot of time to write and that has made me poorer because I’ve lost contact with my blog friends. My former real life friends have all abandoned me anyway and I hid the blog because of criticisms and sensitivities associated with what I’ve written and the way I wrote it. Since I’ve lost them anyway I’m going to reveal this blog again.

14th August passed without me knowing for the first time in 4 years. In 2004 on that Saturday my Dad died and that served as a catalyst for a great deal of change for me – my marriage ended, I commenced a new relationship, bought a new house, got sacked from my job and started a new career.

I did not remember the date my Dad died this year for the first time since it happened. That seems weird to me, maybe it’s a sign that I am moving on, that this midlife adventure is slowing down. That I can now start to get back into the stream and slowly paddle forward again.

There is barely a day goes by when I don’t think of Dad but I am making my peace with what went before. Yesterday I was watching a Garth Brooks special on CMC and “The Dance” was played. There are some songs that make me emotional every time I hear them and that is one. So for Dad and for what has happened in the past four years please have a listen.

Musical Memories

I’m not sure whether a meme has been done along these lines before but it may be a bit of fun.

Rules are simple.

1. Name between 5 & 10 songs that have made an impact on your life. I’ll leave it up to you to decide how many you wish to describe

2.Pass it onto five other people with a link back to your own post and this one as the original.

Musical Memories

1. Ballad of Davy Crockett – We didn’t have a radiogram when we were kids but we did have a Bakelite record player and am radio. Mum had a huge collection of 78rpm records but the only one I ever wanted to listen to was the Ballad of Davy Crockett. Sadly I still remember the words. I must have been around 4 or 5 years old when I first heard it.

2. Edge of Reality – Elvis Presley; this was the first 45rpm record that I ever owned and I was given it one Christmas along with Suspicious Minds and a Jim Nabors EP. Don’t know what Father Christmas was thinking when he gave me the last, although I was a fan of Gomer Pyle at the time. Now Suspicious Minds was a number 1 hit in 1969 so that would have made me 12 years old.

3. Eagle Rock – Daddy Cool. Well known to Australians and still gets a great run at parties for people of all ages – my kids even love it. I remember listening to this in the back of a bus on a school history excursion to the old gold mining town of Maldon with everyone singing along at the tops of their voices. This would have been 1971-72.

4. Desperado – The Eagles. I was introduced to them by an American exchange teacher who played it to us one rainy-day lunchtime at school and I was hooked immediately and have been ever since. I’ve written about this previously here.

5. For a Dancer – Jackson Browne. I could pick anyone of a number of Jackson Browne songs but this one is a favourite. I remember seeing him when he came to Melbourne in around 1978 just after Running on Empty was released. He was late coming on stage because there had been some hold up with the transport of the trucks from Sydney, but when he did come on he treated us to four hour of magic. I got into trouble from my mother because I walked in at 4am. The concert had finished too late for us to catch public transport so we walked home from the city.

6. Summer of 69 – Bryan Adams. Because it makes me remember good times. 1969 I was actually a bit young to be doing those things but certainly in the 70’s a group of mates and I had a bit of a band thing going. Many nights were spent sitting around living rooms playing guitars and harmonicas, singing the songs we cared about. As students our disposable income was low so we made out own entertainment because we couldn’t afford the club or disco scene.

7. Boys of Summer – Don Henley. As above really, everytime I hear it I’m transported back to those days of summer of my childhood.

8. The Dance – Garth Brooks. This was played at my Dad’s funeral and the words say it all.

9.The Living Years – Mike and the Mechanics. I think this is a song for most people about their fathers. It came out long before my Dad passed away but has held a particular poignancy for me since he died.

10. I hope you Dance – Leeann Womack. I have used words from this song on birthday cards or special occasions for my own kids and nieces and nephews since it was released.

Now for the tags – and I know I have tagged each of you before – as usual only participate if you feel that it is a worthwhile topic.

Paisley’s list is here

Holly’s list is here

Finn’s

Jeff’s list is here

Amber’s list is here

Apologies to anyone who has already strated a meme like this one.

Here are some others who have also published their lists –

Jodi

Wonder

Greg

Drive by Blogger

Michelle

Reema

Cyberoutlaw

Laurie Anne

Chris

Cynthia

Ari

2Writehands

Heather

Meleah Rebeccah

Lifesinger

Charles

Anna

Laura

Anthony

Patrick

Carly

Meyauw

Somerset Bob

Davie B

Dorothy

Anna

Musical Memories

I’m not sure whether a meme has been done along these lines before but it may be a bit of fun.

Rules are simple.

1. Name between 5 & 10 songs that have made an impact on your life. I’ll leave it up to you to decide how many you wish to describe

2.Pass it onto five other people with a link back to your own post and this one as the original.

Musical Memories

1. Ballad of Davy Crockett – We didn’t have a radiogram when we were kids but we did have a Bakelite record player and am radio. Mum had a huge collection of 78rpm records but the only one I ever wanted to listen to was the Ballad of Davy Crockett. Sadly I still remember the words. I must have been around 4 or 5 years old when I first heard it.

2. Edge of Reality – Elvis Presley; this was the first 45rpm record that I ever owned and I was given it one Christmas along with Suspicious Minds and a Jim Nabors EP. Don’t know what Father Christmas was thinking when he gave me the last, although I was a fan of Gomer Pyle at the time. Now Suspicious Minds was a number 1 hit in 1969 so that would have made me 12 years old.

3. Eagle Rock – Daddy Cool. Well known to Australians and still gets a great run at parties for people of all ages – my kids even love it. I remember listening to this in the back of a bus on a school history excursion to the old gold mining town of Maldon with everyone singing along at the tops of their voices. This would have been 1971-72.

4. Desperado – The Eagles. I was introduced to them by an American exchange teacher who played it to us one rainy-day lunchtime at school and I was hooked immediately and have been ever since. I’ve written about this previously here.

5. For a Dancer – Jackson Browne. I could pick anyone of a number of Jackson Browne songs but this one is a favourite. I remember seeing him when he came to Melbourne in around 1978 just after Running on Empty was released. He was late coming on stage because there had been some hold up with the transport of the trucks from Sydney, but when he did come on he treated us to four hour of magic. I got into trouble from my mother because I walked in at 4am. The concert had finished too late for us to catch public transport so we walked home from the city.

6. Summer of 69 – Bryan Adams. Because it makes me remember good times. 1969 I was actually a bit young to be doing those things but certainly in the 70’s a group of mates and I had a bit of a band thing going. Many nights were spent sitting around living rooms playing guitars and harmonicas, singing the songs we cared about. As students our disposable income was low so we made out own entertainment because we couldn’t afford the club or disco scene.

7. Boys of Summer – Don Henley. As above really, everytime I hear it I’m transported back to those days of summer of my childhood.

8. The Dance – Garth Brooks. This was played at my Dad’s funeral and the words say it all.

9.The Living Years – Mike and the Mechanics. I think this is a song for most people about their fathers. It came out long before my Dad passed away but has held a particular poignancy for me since he died.

10. I hope you Dance – Leeann Womack. I have used words from this song on birthday cards or special occasions for my own kids and nieces and nephews since it was released.

Now for the tags – and I know I have tagged each of you before – as usual only participate if you feel that it is a worthwhile topic.

Paisley’s list is here

Holly’s list is here

Finn’s

Jeff’s list is here

Amber’s list is here

Apologies to anyone who has already strated a meme like this one.

Here are some others who have also published their lists –

Jodi

Wonder

Greg

Drive by Blogger

Michelle

Reema

Cyberoutlaw

Laurie Anne

Chris

Cynthia

Ari

2Writehands

Heather

Meleah Rebeccah

Lifesinger

Charles

Anna

Laura

Anthony

Patrick

Carly

Meyauw

Somerset Bob

Davie B

Dorothy

Anna

Musical Memories

I’m not sure whether a meme has been done along these lines before but it may be a bit of fun.

Rules are simple.

1. Name between 5 & 10 songs that have made an impact on your life. I’ll leave it up to you to decide how many you wish to describe

2.Pass it onto five other people with a link back to your own post and this one as the original.

Musical Memories

1. Ballad of Davy Crockett – We didn’t have a radiogram when we were kids but we did have a Bakelite record player and am radio. Mum had a huge collection of 78rpm records but the only one I ever wanted to listen to was the Ballad of Davy Crockett. Sadly I still remember the words. I must have been around 4 or 5 years old when I first heard it.

2. Edge of Reality – Elvis Presley; this was the first 45rpm record that I ever owned and I was given it one Christmas along with Suspicious Minds and a Jim Nabors EP. Don’t know what Father Christmas was thinking when he gave me the last, although I was a fan of Gomer Pyle at the time. Now Suspicious Minds was a number 1 hit in 1969 so that would have made me 12 years old.

3. Eagle Rock – Daddy Cool. Well known to Australians and still gets a great run at parties for people of all ages – my kids even love it. I remember listening to this in the back of a bus on a school history excursion to the old gold mining town of Maldon with everyone singing along at the tops of their voices. This would have been 1971-72.

4. Desperado – The Eagles. I was introduced to them by an American exchange teacher who played it to us one rainy-day lunchtime at school and I was hooked immediately and have been ever since. I’ve written about this previously here.

5. For a Dancer – Jackson Browne. I could pick anyone of a number of Jackson Browne songs but this one is a favourite. I remember seeing him when he came to Melbourne in around 1978 just after Running on Empty was released. He was late coming on stage because there had been some hold up with the transport of the trucks from Sydney, but when he did come on he treated us to four hour of magic. I got into trouble from my mother because I walked in at 4am. The concert had finished too late for us to catch public transport so we walked home from the city.

6. Summer of 69 – Bryan Adams. Because it makes me remember good times. 1969 I was actually a bit young to be doing those things but certainly in the 70’s a group of mates and I had a bit of a band thing going. Many nights were spent sitting around living rooms playing guitars and harmonicas, singing the songs we cared about. As students our disposable income was low so we made out own entertainment because we couldn’t afford the club or disco scene.

7. Boys of Summer – Don Henley. As above really, everytime I hear it I’m transported back to those days of summer of my childhood.

8. The Dance – Garth Brooks. This was played at my Dad’s funeral and the words say it all.

9.The Living Years – Mike and the Mechanics. I think this is a song for most people about their fathers. It came out long before my Dad passed away but has held a particular poignancy for me since he died.

10. I hope you Dance – Leeann Womack. I have used words from this song on birthday cards or special occasions for my own kids and nieces and nephews since it was released.

Now for the tags – and I know I have tagged each of you before – as usual only participate if you feel that it is a worthwhile topic.

Paisley’s list is here

Holly’s list is here

Finn’s

Jeff’s list is here

Amber’s list is here

Apologies to anyone who has already strated a meme like this one.

Here are some others who have also published their lists –

Jodi

Wonder

Greg

Drive by Blogger

Michelle

Reema

Cyberoutlaw

Laurie Anne

Chris

Cynthia

Ari

2Writehands

Heather

Meleah Rebeccah

Lifesinger

Charles