The strangest places

Perceptions are an odd thing I’ve decided.  The other day my son asked me how I survived in the Police Force being a non-drinker.  I told him that I didn’t know any different, but unlike a lot of my peers I didn’t spend a lot of time socialising at the Police Club which in those days was adjacent to Russell Street Police Station and always full of coppers, most of them off duty, unless you were a detective and then given you were on duty all the time it didn’t really matter whether you were on or off shift, if you get my drift.

Anyway, the truth was that I was never at my best in crowds or social situations.  I was shy, I didn’t enjoy smoky, beery environments, and at the time, I was a young married man with a couple of young sons and I much preferred being home than out.  I don’t think I was ever given any credit for that.  And that doesn’t mean I think I deserved it, just that the homeliness wasn’t appreciated.

The being home thing is the one true trait that reveals me as a Cancerian I guess and not much has changed over the long years since.   Looking back [and maybe some of you who have regularly read this blog will know] my loner personality was evident pretty early in life.  I’ve heard recently that someone I used to be close to had described me as a boring man and as someone no one would look twice at, and to be fair, that has an element of truth.   Social situations and building relationships used to scare the crap out of me.  I’d much rather lock myself at home rather than put myself in a situation where I might have been vulnerable.

So son, if you one day read this.  I have no regrets about spending the time at home rather than getting pissed with my mates.   I wonder sometimes whether I may have ended up with closer and better friends than I had, but it is a waste of time wondering for too long.  In the end we do what we do because it seems the right thing at the time.  Sometimes experience and hindsight may tell us that we should have explored some things more fully, that letting walls down and friendships in may not be such a bad thing after all.   But two wise men have left behind two wise comments –

“To thine own self be true.”  and
“I yam what I yam and that’s all I yam”

And for those who don’t recognise the quotes the first is William Shakespeare, the second is Popeye, which simply proves that wisdom can be found in the strangest places.

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33 Comments

  1. paisley said,

    January 23, 2009 at 9:09 am

    it’s me that hasn’t been around my dearest blog friend… so caught up in my own shit…. but i am back and feeling like getting back in the swing so you’ll be seeing a lot more of me!!!!!

  2. paisley said,

    January 23, 2009 at 9:09 am

    it’s me that hasn’t been around my dearest blog friend… so caught up in my own shit…. but i am back and feeling like getting back in the swing so you’ll be seeing a lot more of me!!!!!

  3. paisley said,

    January 23, 2009 at 9:09 am

    it’s me that hasn’t been around my dearest blog friend… so caught up in my own shit…. but i am back and feeling like getting back in the swing so you’ll be seeing a lot more of me!!!!!

  4. Golden To Silver Val said,

    January 23, 2009 at 11:59 am

    The most important thing and the bottom line here….is that you did what YOU wanted to do…what made YOU happy and didn’t succumb to peer pressure. What I would have given for a husband who loved to stay home with his family…instead of one that loved the bars and that environment more. I think your choices may have been appreciated more than you realize. I worked with cops for 25 years and know that most of the marriages don’t last because of the need to unwind after work. Keep Smilin’.

  5. Golden To Silver Val said,

    January 23, 2009 at 11:59 am

    The most important thing and the bottom line here….is that you did what YOU wanted to do…what made YOU happy and didn’t succumb to peer pressure. What I would have given for a husband who loved to stay home with his family…instead of one that loved the bars and that environment more. I think your choices may have been appreciated more than you realize. I worked with cops for 25 years and know that most of the marriages don’t last because of the need to unwind after work. Keep Smilin’.

  6. Golden To Silver Val said,

    January 23, 2009 at 11:59 am

    The most important thing and the bottom line here….is that you did what YOU wanted to do…what made YOU happy and didn’t succumb to peer pressure. What I would have given for a husband who loved to stay home with his family…instead of one that loved the bars and that environment more. I think your choices may have been appreciated more than you realize. I worked with cops for 25 years and know that most of the marriages don’t last because of the need to unwind after work. Keep Smilin’.

  7. Walker said,

    January 23, 2009 at 3:03 pm

    How you choose to spend you time is a reflection of you you are I think.
    You weren’t about drinking after work or socializing with those you spend all day with rather you wanted to be where yopu wanted to and that shows that you are an independant thinker and not a follower.

  8. Walker said,

    January 23, 2009 at 3:03 pm

    How you choose to spend you time is a reflection of you you are I think.
    You weren’t about drinking after work or socializing with those you spend all day with rather you wanted to be where yopu wanted to and that shows that you are an independant thinker and not a follower.

  9. Walker said,

    January 23, 2009 at 3:03 pm

    How you choose to spend you time is a reflection of you you are I think.
    You weren’t about drinking after work or socializing with those you spend all day with rather you wanted to be where yopu wanted to and that shows that you are an independant thinker and not a follower.

  10. Finn said,

    January 23, 2009 at 4:25 pm

    I have a hard time reconciling shyness and being a cop. How do you do that?

  11. Finn said,

    January 23, 2009 at 4:25 pm

    I have a hard time reconciling shyness and being a cop. How do you do that?

  12. Finn said,

    January 23, 2009 at 4:25 pm

    I have a hard time reconciling shyness and being a cop. How do you do that?

  13. skipper said,

    January 23, 2009 at 11:28 pm

    Loz;

    It is a shame we all can not be ourselves and must be something that others want. I agree – I yam what I yam…

  14. skipper said,

    January 23, 2009 at 11:28 pm

    Loz;

    It is a shame we all can not be ourselves and must be something that others want. I agree – I yam what I yam…

  15. skipper said,

    January 23, 2009 at 11:28 pm

    Loz;

    It is a shame we all can not be ourselves and must be something that others want. I agree – I yam what I yam…

  16. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:39 am

    Welcome back dear Paisley. And I meant what I said, if you need to talk…

  17. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:39 am

    Hi Val – I think being boring was perhaps one reason mine didn’t last.

  18. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:39 am

    Welcome back dear Paisley. And I meant what I said, if you need to talk…

  19. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:39 am

    Hi Val – I think being boring was perhaps one reason mine didn’t last.

  20. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:39 am

    Welcome back dear Paisley. And I meant what I said, if you need to talk…

  21. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:39 am

    Hi Val – I think being boring was perhaps one reason mine didn’t last.

  22. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:41 am

    Walker – you’re right it is easier for me to behave that way than to go outside my comfort zone.

  23. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:41 am

    Walker – you’re right it is easier for me to behave that way than to go outside my comfort zone.

  24. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:41 am

    Walker – you’re right it is easier for me to behave that way than to go outside my comfort zone.

  25. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:42 am

    Finn – an ex-cop now. But if I told you I was a hostage negotiator rather than a sniper would that help explain it?

  26. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:42 am

    Skipper – I think for some of us this long distance socialising through blogging is much more comfortable.

  27. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:42 am

    Finn – an ex-cop now. But if I told you I was a hostage negotiator rather than a sniper would that help explain it?

  28. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:42 am

    Skipper – I think for some of us this long distance socialising through blogging is much more comfortable.

  29. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:42 am

    Finn – an ex-cop now. But if I told you I was a hostage negotiator rather than a sniper would that help explain it?

  30. Loz said,

    January 24, 2009 at 8:42 am

    Skipper – I think for some of us this long distance socialising through blogging is much more comfortable.

  31. Romany Angel said,

    January 24, 2009 at 2:31 pm

    Being a shy non drinker does not make you boring Loz, just someone with the backbone to be who he really is. As for being someone you wouldn’t look twice at…what a crock and I bet R will agree with me there 🙂

  32. Romany Angel said,

    January 24, 2009 at 2:31 pm

    Being a shy non drinker does not make you boring Loz, just someone with the backbone to be who he really is. As for being someone you wouldn’t look twice at…what a crock and I bet R will agree with me there 🙂

  33. Romany Angel said,

    January 24, 2009 at 2:31 pm

    Being a shy non drinker does not make you boring Loz, just someone with the backbone to be who he really is. As for being someone you wouldn’t look twice at…what a crock and I bet R will agree with me there 🙂


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